The Intricate Relationship Between Non-Judgment and Acceptance

Mindfulness is about being aware of the present moment. Being here and now.

There are a few key concepts in mindfulness are intricately related namely non-judging, acceptance and letting go.

Our mind often labels or judges events, things, people as “good” as it makes us feels good for some reason, or “bad” as it makes us feel bad. Or neutral.

In daily life we often try to make situations the way we want to be which creates more tension and stress for us. Rather than accepting the situation just as it is.

Letting go is about non-attachment – or accepting things the way they are.

This habit of judging locks us into reactions that we are not aware of and thus makes it difficult to find peace within ourselves

I too often fight “challenging” situations in my life. However I learned that when I stopped judging them as a bad thing, when I stopped wondering why this happened to me – I found that acceptance came with more ease. This in turn is allowing me to be more at peace with the experience.

So I challenge you – consider a situation you are fighting or labeling as bad, sad, or unfortunate.

It could be related to your work e.g. change or loss of a job, a relationship, your health or whatever else first comes to you.

  • Become aware of the labeling or judging you may be doing in your mind.
  • You may want to even jot down words or draw if you are visual person.
  • And then simply see the situation just as it is. As if you are an impartial or objective observer.
  • With time, acceptance of the situation will come with more ease.
  • You may even gain some insights or lessons as to why the situation is happening.

Written by Avdeep Bahra OT Reg. (Ont.)

 Avdeep Bahra is an occupational therapist that uses various techniques based on mindfulness concepts to enhance her clients’ mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well-being. She offers one on one appointments, mindfulness meditation classes and mindfulness workshops in the Greater Toronto Area. She has co-facilitated at the University of Toronto on spirituality, health and wellness. Furthermore, she has educated viewers on Rogers TV on the topic of holistic health.

Avdeep has an undergraduate degree in Psychology and a Masters in Occupational Therapy. She offers client appointments in person or over Skype. Occupational Therapy services may be covered under your benefits.

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