Feb 14, 2019

Being Kinder to Yourself

by Avdeep Bahra, Occupational Therapist

Do you wake up some days feeling stressed, sad, angry – or any other emotion that we would normally label as “bad”?  We all have those types of days – if only we allow ourselves to admit it!

Do you fight the feelings and beg for them to go away so you can simply feel happier or more at peace?

It is said, “What we resist, will persist”

And this phrase applies to emotions too! Why do we often resist those so-called “bad” feelings?

It is because most of our lives we are taught that it’s “bad” or “not right” to be express or feel such emotions. Yet, resisting our emotions, simply makes them sit in our bodies and possibly cause physiological reactions.

For instance, imagine a time when you got startled by someone or something – most likely your heart started racing, your palms got cold or sweaty, or your rate of breathing changed. So clearly, an emotion (fear) created a physical response in your body.

Similarly, other emotions such as anger or sadness also create physiological or hormonal reactions in our bodies.  There truly is a mind-body connection.

“Just as thoughts are the language of the brain, feelings are the language of the body. And how you think and how you feel create a state of being. A state of being is when your mind and body are working together. So your present state of being is your genuine mind-body connection.”
-Joe Dispenza, You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter

Here are 4 tips to help you through emotions:

  1. Rather than resisting emotions, set the intention to be kinder to yourself and embrace what surfaces with self-compassion.
  2. Rather than denying what you feel, allow yourself to experience it without judgment and as an impartial observer. By being an impartial observer, you will gradually become less reactive to your thoughts or emotions. You will be able to make better decisions.
  3. Do not judge the feeling as good or bad. Simply notice it with interest, curiosity and maybe even some humour! This is part of being mindful.
  4. You may even ask your emotions some questions. “Why are you here today?” “What wisdom or lesson do you have for me today?”

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Avdeep enjoys sharing personal stories, education and tips around emotional health!

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Avdeep Bahra is an occupational therapist that guides clients to manage stress and enhance emotional health.  She creates safe spaces to share what is on your heart, to express your voice and connect with like-minded others. Through deep listening and various techniques she helps clients to process and release negative emotions. She inspires clients to let go of judgment, to live with self-compassion and to reconnect with their spirit – in order to live a happier and more meaningful life.  She beautifully blends her formal training with intuition to create change with clients.  She brings mindfulness, Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), HeartMath Coaching and energy work to client sessions.   

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